tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.comments2023-05-01T02:51:55.139-07:00Mental Musings and MeltdownsTonyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02737992571206851964noreply@blogger.comBlogger625125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-16376203302951545692023-03-28T14:18:49.080-07:002023-03-28T14:18:49.080-07:00You are welcome to stop by and read any time. I al...You are welcome to stop by and read any time. I always ask the couples who come to my practice for help "Why do you want this relationship to work?" In other words (yours), why bother? Because boy, can they be a bother! Thank you for your kind comment. Tonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02737992571206851964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-47908109950048003152023-03-28T14:16:01.226-07:002023-03-28T14:16:01.226-07:00Thank you, Michael. This is not the relationship I...Thank you, Michael. This is not the relationship I wanted when I was 20--just took me 40 years to figure out what relationship satisfaction is. Tonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02737992571206851964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-39553247819012025272023-03-28T14:14:02.166-07:002023-03-28T14:14:02.166-07:00She feels as relevant today as she did decades ago...She feels as relevant today as she did decades ago!Tonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02737992571206851964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-49744115951998842432023-03-27T21:28:57.572-07:002023-03-27T21:28:57.572-07:00I know this comment is a month and a half late, bu...I know this comment is a month and a half late, but this essay is phenomenal. It quite clearly explains why one would bother with a relationship at all.Old Lurkerhttps://oldlurker974.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-25770352636366292132023-03-15T10:42:51.443-07:002023-03-15T10:42:51.443-07:00Splendid! I was delighted when you tied in Maude, ...Splendid! I was delighted when you tied in Maude, for she was/is one of my favorite characters in all movies. Sometimes when I am down or discouraged I think of her; she stiffens my spine. Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-44743978155273391172023-03-15T10:40:37.769-07:002023-03-15T10:40:37.769-07:00I always enjoy reading your thoughts. In the end ...I always enjoy reading your thoughts. In the end love and happiness etc. are not fireworks but a warm contentment hardly noticed really. What a splendid couple you make; good for you!Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-67863025671714394192022-01-24T06:10:23.658-08:002022-01-24T06:10:23.658-08:00Thank you, James, and welcome! Thank you, James, and welcome! Tonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02737992571206851964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-35732203021629731262022-01-23T14:15:38.587-08:002022-01-23T14:15:38.587-08:00I really enjoyed the poem you left on Spo Reflecti...I really enjoyed the poem you left on Spo Reflections today. It seemed optimistic. I suppose it doesn’t hurt you are easy on the eyes and of a certain age. Thanks again, and although I am commenting on an October post, I love your new apartment!James Dwight Williamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11259548676840307052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-36573774852108952492021-10-10T18:15:30.645-07:002021-10-10T18:15:30.645-07:00I loved this series so much. Thank you. I laughed,...I loved this series so much. Thank you. I laughed, nodded, teared up...all of the feelings. Your new place is lovely, you are a lovely human in a new lovely space. Be well..MariMarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09044691200849750838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-46802008881356329352020-06-08T00:29:39.025-07:002020-06-08T00:29:39.025-07:00Hey, Tony, I've been on OK Cupid for over two ...Hey, Tony, I've been on OK Cupid for over two years, not one date! Totally soul-destroying. Been meaning to delete, having read your article, I feel I inspired to 'get my life back!' More time to maybe start running as a new hobby, and fingers crossed, I meet someone amazing in the real world! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-64753078414596103142019-07-09T03:06:42.942-07:002019-07-09T03:06:42.942-07:00you are a survivor, you are invincible, you are st...you are a survivor, you are invincible, you are strong. YOU ARE YOU! and I like you just the way you are.anne marie in phillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11765140782182605141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-59769720679711354562019-05-26T16:08:42.091-07:002019-05-26T16:08:42.091-07:00Indeed you always write marvelous prose.
I have no...Indeed you always write marvelous prose.<br />I have now heard of the mentioned book so many times I feel obliged to read it.<br />I never thought sucking dick was bad; it was bewildering to me where others got otherwise. :-) Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-51252798234838848982019-05-25T15:20:20.297-07:002019-05-25T15:20:20.297-07:00This is a fantastic post, Tony - - which should be...This is a fantastic post, Tony - - which should be read numerous times to be fully absorbed. I can relate to it on many levels. It's an unfortunate fact that it often takes (nearly) a lifetime to realize we choose our own feelings....Jonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02619128793632680659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-42589239447259071242019-05-25T07:25:25.366-07:002019-05-25T07:25:25.366-07:00YASSSSSSSSSSSSSS to #14!YASSSSSSSSSSSSSS to #14!anne marie in phillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11765140782182605141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-69545401093350069252019-05-05T15:55:52.202-07:002019-05-05T15:55:52.202-07:00I liked #9 the most. I liked #9 the most. Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-41934437541121699272019-02-09T02:19:11.311-08:002019-02-09T02:19:11.311-08:00I thoroughly enjoyed reading this tribute to your ...I thoroughly enjoyed reading this tribute to your lovely mother. Many of the things you said hit home. "When your <br />mother dies, time both stops and turns into an eternity".<br /><br />I can also identify with not wanting to seek "closure" around your grief. It is definitely one of the things that keeps our loved one's memory alive.<br /><br />My mom died in 2009. I never fully recovered - and, quite honestly, I never really want to.<br /><br />By the way, I had both my parents cremated because that was what they wanted.<br />Jonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02619128793632680659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-73018150558015580702019-02-03T07:57:03.868-08:002019-02-03T07:57:03.868-08:00HELLO DAHLING! all docs is quacks, as spo would s...HELLO DAHLING! all docs is quacks, as spo would say; but doc phil and doc oz and doc adkins ARE quacks!<br /><br />#1 - HELL YEAH! I don't own a phone, so that's an easy one for me.<br /><br />#2 - DOUBLE HELL YEAH! men are pigs, and we women are getting damn sick & tired of cleaning up men's shit.<br /><br />hope things are going well for you. SMOOCH!anne marie in phillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11765140782182605141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-84556650969809958662019-01-06T17:21:52.228-08:002019-01-06T17:21:52.228-08:00You continue to write splendid. I too find it use...You continue to write splendid. I too find it useless if not damaging to tell patients to 'grow up'.<br />I have copied this essay for later contemplation to help me in my 2019. <br />thanks Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-68152496382956962282018-12-16T19:00:59.099-08:002018-12-16T19:00:59.099-08:00This is a very good list indeed. I especially like...This is a very good list indeed. I especially like #12 particularly when applied to my fellow theatre/symphony/restaurant/airplane companions. Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-62979038772673244032018-11-24T04:17:48.210-08:002018-11-24T04:17:48.210-08:00fuck every organized religion! (says the ex-catho...fuck every organized religion! (says the ex-catholic)anne marie in phillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11765140782182605141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-43554899214851688662018-10-13T13:13:07.999-07:002018-10-13T13:13:07.999-07:00And I have thought about this over the years, Tony...And I have thought about this over the years, Tony, and couldn't agree more with you on all counts.<br />Being raised/born RC, as one Buddhist therapist told me, was probably the reason I was talking with her.<br />Religious institutions are criminal in so many ways as to what they have caused/are causing so many people of the course of their existence.<br />Again, your writing is so succinct and clear. Thanks.Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11199777195853274898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-44319086529817797862018-09-23T09:06:37.083-07:002018-09-23T09:06:37.083-07:00I squeal with delight when i see you've posted...I squeal with delight when i see you've posted.<br />This afternoon I plan to read it throughtfully and leave comment. Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-85437900905103243102018-09-04T04:17:18.263-07:002018-09-04T04:17:18.263-07:00Congratulations! It's been a while since I las...Congratulations! It's been a while since I last checked your blog, and I am so very happy for you that you have found what makes you happy. Age is something you will be permanently reconsidering and repurposing within and outside of your relationship, particularly as youth inevitably indicates less experience and different thoughts on expectation. The best thing is that your own past can be fully reassessed via younger eyes; both his and your own.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03569891023646115122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-25654978176699565182018-06-18T16:09:03.653-07:002018-06-18T16:09:03.653-07:00I just stumbled upon your blog. I don't know ...I just stumbled upon your blog. I don't know how though! I loved your post about your mother. It was beautifully written and a wonderful tribute to her. Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12490988837607883653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-23965473359222881812018-06-17T09:47:29.625-07:002018-06-17T09:47:29.625-07:00I don't get attached to things. every january...I don't get attached to things. every january I purge my own stuff. I've never had to do it for a relative.anne marie in phillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11765140782182605141noreply@blogger.com