tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post9201792141482136591..comments2023-05-01T02:51:55.139-07:00Comments on Mental Musings and Meltdowns: becoming regularTonyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02737992571206851964noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-50757559336232278302011-03-20T16:59:21.074-07:002011-03-20T16:59:21.074-07:00jim, just re-read this post and your comment and d...jim, just re-read this post and your comment and don't know why i never responded to you. i love how you got that the gay "community" was not regular--it isn't. in my work and in my own life i find that most gay men are too busy deciding who they want to be or finding out how to be who they are not that there is little chance of regular happening. that is not a slight on gays, rather a comment on our culture--a culture that makes if easier for straight people to be regular. you found that out, as i have, working with straight guys at whole foods, and perhaps we are both better off for it. at the least, we are more regular...!Tonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02737992571206851964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178028168770339652.post-39342426664275642522010-05-07T05:10:21.696-07:002010-05-07T05:10:21.696-07:00In some crazy way I understand what you are talkin...In some crazy way I understand what you are talking about.....I think. The fact that I am gay automatically makes me 'not regular'. But also I have felt that I didn't 'fit' into my family......not just because I am gay but because I think differently than they do. Or maybe it is because I am gay. Gays are different.....the wiring is not the same as heteros.<br /><br />The competition to be 'not regular' in LA must be incredible. I can't imagine.<br /><br />We, my partner and I, in order to feel regular and part of society, decided a long time ago to get uninvolved with the gay community. We found it too 'unreal'. So we lived in and socialized with mostly straight people. We didn't hide anything from the people we met.....and for the most part it worked much better for us. We were part of a community where we could be ourselves (mostly) and not compete with anybody.<br /><br />I think that it is difficult to feel regular in the gay community. They do not like regular anything for the most part.......maybe it's changing, I hope it is.<br /><br />Sounds like you need to meet a normal, regular guy and go from there. Easy to say I guess. Anyway, good luck in your search for the 'best' place to live.Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11199777195853274898noreply@blogger.com